I'd like to try something. Indulge me?
I have a practice I share with my friend Naomi. When things get hard - and hard is relative but clearly things are hard right now, for all of us no matter which side of the election you fall on - when things get hard Naomi and I text each other with the simple subject “3 Good Things.” And then we make a list of three good things, it’s that simple. Sometimes they’re little good things like the way the sunlight hit my bedroom wall, sometimes they’re big good things like positive medical news, and lots of time they are in between good things like the way my kids made music together in the living room after dinner last night. It is a super simple practice; it takes a minute or two at the most. But it makes a difference.
I can tell you from experience – my own, and friends who have joined me over the last many months – that looking for the goodness makes a difference. Taking a moment to look for any sort of bright spot in the face of whatever hard flat tire cranky children delayed flight scary doctor visit pain loss broken world, it makes a difference. The act alone, of searching for good things, makes a difference, honoring those good things makes a difference, sharing them with each other does too. It changes us just a little bit, like tiny fibers tearing and reforming until suddenly you’re noticing the good things without having to work quite so hard to find them.
You may or may not know that I have a daily gratitude practice as well, and I have a lot more to say about that another day. The 3 Good Things practice is what I use when my daily practice isn’t enough, when things are really dark; it’s like a booster shot, or a wheatgrass shot, or a cup of cocoa with marshmallows. And I’d like to invite you to try it and see for yourself.
This invitation is a certain kind of crazy, because aren't we all looking for less email not more, but our collective well being is bigger than that so I’ve set up an email address: firstname.lastname@example.org, and you can write to me there and share your own good things. You can write once a day or once a week or twice an hour, it’s up to you. The space is there to hold and honor your good things, no matter how big or how small. It’s private, I won’t share or judge or question – I will receive your goodness, that is all. Just write to me and tell me three good things. Please try it.